Gifting Lingerie: Something Old, New, Borrowed, Used?

Hanky Panky Porcelain Rose Bridal Set for Gifting Lingerie

Something New: Porcelain Rose Bridal Set & Something Borrowed: the Pearls

It’s National Tell a Story Day and we’ve got a good one for you. Are or were you bride-to-be? Have you ever been gifted lingerie? Are you considering gifting lingerie to someone you know? Well, if you can relate to the above questions or just want to hear this entrancing, hilarious tale, then gather around:


It’s a spring day with a bit of overcast, but decent weather.  My friends and I are gathered at a bridal shower for our friend, Hannah.  We sit around as the bride-to-be opens her gifts, expressing awe, joy, surprise and gratitude. There’s a dinnerware set, kitchen appliances, honeymoon package and what else, but lingerie. As some of us remark on the intimate nature of such a gift and whether gifting lingerie is appropriate,  Hannah shares that this is not the first lingerie-containing package that she has received…

Her mother-in-law (MIL), who couldn’t make it for the festivities, also bequeathed her with some very special lingerie, as she tells it:

My MIL sent some lingerie that was hers when she got married (decades prior)! But that was super weird and I didn’t hold on to it. She put some note in there, like, ‘since Cindy (her daughter) will never get married, here is this.’ Obviously an emotional move!

I replied,

Ooh, and obviously a burn to Cindy, but maybe Cindy doesn’t want to do that.

Hannah continues,

Yeah!  [laughs] I mean… Cindy doesn’t want to get married–she doesn’t and has made that clear. I think her mother is bitter and upset about it. But it’s her life… So the lingerie got me mixed up in all of that! I think bridal lingerie is a great gift idea, but as long as it isn’t a projection!

And there you have it from the bride herself. Gifting lingerie? YES. Gifting used lingerie out of spite? A big NO. While we are all for recycling those old threads, this is not the way to do it, if that wasn’t obvious.

Hanky Panky Annabelle Garter

Something Blue: Annabelle Garter

Lastly, if you are in the market for some intimate gifts, check out our 2017 Bridal gifts blog post and feel free to peruse our Bridal and Bridal Plus Size boutiques. You are guaranteed to find that something new and maybe a little something blue, just never go the route of intimates that have been used [said with a wink].

Carla, tale-telling

Note: I have recreated events, locales and conversations from my memories of them. In order to maintain anonymity, the names of individuals and identifying characteristics have been changed.

About Hanky Panky

In 1977, designer Gale Epstein created a hand-made lingerie set for her friend, Lida Orzeck, crafted out of embroidered handkerchiefs. The original designs were the inspiration for the company name, Hanky Panky. Blending traditional with modern glam looks, Hanky Panky is a fashion favorite of countless celebrities.
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